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How to Lead and Succeed at a Higher Level With Ken Blanchard

How to Lead and Succeed at a Higher Level With Ken Blanchard

Update: 2019-02-184
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Ken Blanchard, PhD, is one of the most influential leadership experts in the world. He has co-authored 60 books, including Raving Fans and Gung Ho! (with Sheldon Bowles). His groundbreaking works have been translated into over 40 languages and their combined sales total more than 21 million copies.

In 2005 he was inducted into Amazon’s Hall of Fame as one of the top 25 bestselling authors of all time. The recipient of numerous leadership awards and honors, he is cofounder with his wife, Margie, of The Ken Blanchard Companies®, a leading international training and consulting firm.

Favorite Success Quote

“Don’t ever use your position, great leaders and great because people love them and trust them, not because they have power” ~

Key Points

1. Leadership is About Trust Not Power

If you want to be an effective leader, then operate based off of trust, not off of your power.

If you want people to follow you, don’t demand that they follow you, get them to follow you because they trust you.

Leadership is based off of trust, and not off of power. You have to build your community of individuals who trust in you and trust your abilities before you will ever be an effective leader.

2. Don’t Let Age Define You

Whether you are young or old, you have something to offer the world.

Never let your age determine your ambitions.

If you are young, then use that youth and energy to invest into growing yourself and your dream, if you are older, then use your wisdom to grow your dreams while paying it forward and helping someone else.

There is no time in life whenever you do not have a purpose, never let your age define you.

3. You Need to Keep Yourself Excited

No matter where you are in life, you need to keep yourself excited and stimulate, spiritually, physically, and mentally.

If you are not constantly pushing the envelope on your life and growing yourself in all areas you will live a more rich and fulfilling life.

4. Service is Essential to Fulfillment 

You cannot truly live a full life unless you are serving others. Life is empty when it is lived for you.

You have to have some aspect of your life with an element of service. Whether this is starting a non profit, volunteering at your church or with a charity, or just giving 10% of your money to a good cause.

You need to remember that life is bigger than you and act like it.

5. If You Want Something to Go Well Get it Structured 

If you want a marriage, business, or even your health to go well, it needs to be well structured.

You have to put systems into place that help you to operate from strengths, eliminate weaknesses, and get perspective on your blind spots. Only with the right systems in place will anything truly be successful.

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Charlie Brenneman is a former UFC (Ultimate Fighting Championship) competitor in the lightweight division with an overall fight record of 19 wins and 8 losses. After leaving the UFC two years ago, Charlie has devoted himself to helping other people achieve the success that they desire and deserve through professional coaching, speaking, and entrepreneurship. Favorite Success Quote “You are what you repeatedly do, excellence is not an act but a habit” ~ Key Points 1. Success is About Giving Everything You Have In our materialistic and results driven society, it is easy to get caught up in this idea that success is all about making a certain amount of money, winning every competition, and reaching every goal. But the truth is much deeper than that. While accomplishment should certainly play a central role in every man’s definition of success, the missing piece of the puzzle is the effort that you devote to achieving your goals. If you put everything that you have into the attainment of a goal, if you are relentless and driven to a point that many people consider you insane and you still don’t achieve your desired outcome, then guess what? You are still a success. You showed up, you put in the work, and you did everything that you could do. Sometimes despite your best efforts, the stars simply don’t align. And it’s times like this where you can look at yourself in the mirror with pride, knowing that you gave it your all and are still a man of success despite the perceived failure. 2. A Life of Fulfillment Comes from the Habit of Pursuing the Uncomfortable  So many people believe that fulfillment will come whenever they reach a certain goal. Whenever they have seven figures in their bank account, are married to the model wife, or driving the Ferrari. In reality, however, as men, we derive our true sense of fulfillment from constantly pursuing a life of “uncomfortability.” A life where we don’t know whether we will succeed, a life of struggle and triumph, a life, as Teddy Roosevelt put it, “In the arena, with your face marred by blood, and sweat, and tears.” If you want to be fulfilled and live every day with a smile on your face and joy in your heart, then get out of your comfort zone. Get uncomfortable and start pushing the boundaries of what you think is possible in your life. 3. Humility is a Hallmark of the Greats  No matter how successful you become, there is always someone out there who is better than you. And if you want to truly succeed at any endeavor, then you need to have the humility to learn from others and devote yourself to constant improvement. If you look at any great man in sports, business, or life, you will notice that no matter their stature, they were always willing to take criticism and look for ways to improve their craft. From billionaires like Sam Walton to All-Stars like Kobe Bryant, they all approached their field with a deep and genuine humility, accepting that they did not know everything and had plenty of room to improve. If you truly want to be one of the greats, then you need to take the same approach to your life. 4. Accept the Struggle  Whenever you start out at anything, whether it is a business, a sport, an instrument, or improving your social skills, you are going to suck. It’s not pretty, it’s not nice, but it is the cold hard truth. You are going to suck, and you are going to suck for a long time. The quicker that you can come to terms with this and accept that the journey is part of the joy of mastery, the sooner you will be able to overcome your own egotistical nature and truly become an expert in your craft. So embrace the suck. Don’t take yourself too seriously, and get ready for months or even years of fumbling through until you become proficient in your field. 5. Surround Yourself with the Best  The quickest way to accelerate your own growth is to surround yourself with people who are playing the game of life at a higher level than you are. Find people in your field who are performing at a level 10X your current level and get around them. Figure out what habits, tactics, and mindsets are separating them from the 99% and putting them into the proverbial hall of fame. The sooner that you can build up your circle of friends and mentors who are playing at a higher level, the quicker you will achieve your own goals and truly embrace your own potential.
A Counter Intuitive Approach to Living a Good Life With Mark Manson
Mark Manson is a blogger, author, and entrepreneur. He specializes in writing personal development advice that doesn’t suck. His website MarkManson.net is read by over 2 million people each month. He has written two best-sellers Models: The Art of Attracting Women Through Honesty and The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Living a Good Life. markmanson.netYou can connect with him and learn more at Key Points 1. There is No Such Thing as a Problem Free Life Life is not easy, anyone who tells you otherwise is full of crap. Life can suck sometimes and that is just the reality. However, you should not see this as a bad thing, in fact, you should appreciate it. If life is going to be painful no matter what, this means that you have a choice to choose what kind of pain you want to endure. You can endure the pain of failure or you can endure the pain of struggling to achieve success. 2. Pain Isn’t Always Bad Pleasure Isn’t Always Good  Something that most people misunderstand is that pain is not always a bad thing and pleasure is not always a good thing. You can achieve pleasure by purchasing mounds of cocaine and heroin, but that would not be expedient for achieving your goals and living the life that you want. You can also be in pain by pursuing your goals and trying to achieve greatness but this is not necessarily a bad thing. Accept the fact that life is not about being in a constant state of euphoria, it is about overcoming challenges and living a life of meaning. 3. Your Behaviors Dictate Your Values Whenever you ask people what they value they will tell you all sorts of things and about how they value family, fitness, or personal growth. However, their actions say otherwise. They say that they value family but they spend all of their time working. They say they value health but workout only once a month and treat their body like sh!t. Maybe they even say that they don’t value their sex life and yet they are out every week trying to get with a new girl. If you want to know what you truly value, take a look at your actions. Be willing to examine yourself and your life without any bias or judgment and make changes accordingly. If you don’t you will spend your whole life spinning your wheel and accomplishing very little. 4. A Constant Pursuit of Happiness Leads to Dissatisfaction Most self-help movements in the modern world seem hell bent on helping people achieve this constant state of euphoria. But the sad fact is, by pursuing happiness, you actually make yourself less happy. In every moment, you are always wondering “Am I as happy as I could be right now? What more could I be doing?” and you end up feeling depressed and frustrated because you are not happier. The same is true with your physique, bank account, and game. If you are constantly trying to be the absolute best, you will never be able to appreciate where you are. Learn to just accept that you may not be the richest, best looking, or most charismatic man in the room and work with that. Accept yourself for who you are and work to improve in the areas that are truly lacking. Otherwise, you will be like a dog chasing its tail and end up living a miserable life. 5. You are Going to Die  This is one of the most important things to remember in your life. No matter what you achieve, not matter how much money you make, who you marry, or how many people’s lives you affect, at the end of the day you are going to die. There is no way around it. Death is the only constant in every human being’s life. But this should not depress or scare you. It should liberate you. The inevitability of death means that you can free yourself from the expectations of others, the drama of daily life, and the fear that accompanies big decisions. If you are going to die, then all that matter is the legacy that you leave behind you. Remember this and live life to the fullest.
How to B.S. Proof Your Relationships With Joshua Hathaway
Joshua Hathaway, M.A. Holistic Clinical Psychology, is a Tongue Fu black belt and master of the Art of Connection. Through his private and organizational training in No Bullsh!t Communication, as well as coaching and consulting, Joshua is radically empowering people’s success in the changing landscapes of modern love and leadership. Favorite Success Quote “All good things are wild and free” ~ Henry David Thoreau Key Points 1. Your Body Language Effects Your Psychology If you are approaching life in a weak disempowered state, with your shoulders hunched over, your head down, and your arms closed off, you are going to be playing life at a smaller level. Have you ever noticed how powerful people all have similar body language? They all stand up straight, project forward with their bodies and voices, have open postures, and own their space. They do this because your body language affects your psychology, your mood, and even your hormonal balance. From today moving forward, start making a conscious effort to change your body language and watch how it changes how you show up in the world. 2. Your Breath can Change Your Life If you want a quick and easy way to change your life and your relationships, I will give it to you in one word: Breathe. It is that simple. If you are feeling stressed out… Breathe. If you are fighting with your significant other and getting losing your temper… Breathe. If you are in a beautiful place and simply want to appreciate the sweetness of life… Breathe. Breathing more deeply, more fully, more regularly will help you to stay grounded and present and can completely change your life in a way few other things can. 3. Stop Telling B.S. Stories  In relationships, we are often tempted to make up b.s. stories and wild claims that are not grounded in fact. If you want truly satisfying relationships, you need to stop this immediately. Instead of saying that someone never listens, stick with the facts. Say something like “That is the third time today you have cut me off while I was talking and it’s really frustrating me” This approach focuses on facts instead of accusations and it will allow you to get to the root of your relational problems easier than name calling and b.s. storytelling. 4. Just Listen  Seriously, this point is so simple but so profound. Just shut the hell up and listen. Don’t take things personally or get angry about whatever is being said. Just listen, ask better questions and try to get to the root of what is really happening. Stop talking and just listen. 5. Talk about observations, feelings, and values  Whenever you are in a serious conversation with a significant other, talk about three things. First, your observations, or what you have noticed is happening in your relationship. Are they respecting you or not? Are they showing up in a certain way? Have they been caught in a certain pattern of actions? Next talk about how the observation has made you feel. Are you feeling loved? Upset? Frustrated? Finally, discuss your values. Do you value integrity and honesty but have observed a pattern of lying? Say so.
Why Adversity is Your Greatest Ally With Michael Taylor
Coach Michael Taylor is an entrepreneur, author, motivational speaker and radio show host who has dedicated his life to empowering men and women to reach their full potential. He knows first hand how to overcome adversity and build a rewarding and fulfilling life and he is sharing his knowledge and wisdom with others to support them in creating the life of their dreams. Favorite Success Quote “There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~Carl Jung Key Points 1. What You Focus on Expands What you focus on will expand, and if you aren’t intentional about what you are focusing on, you may wake up and realize that you don’t like the life that you have created. If you set the wrong goals and focused on the wrong things, you may wake up one day, wealthy, healthy, with plenty of “notches” on your belt and completely miserable. Instead of focusing on being wealthy, focus on first being happy. Instead of focusing on becoming the next Arnold, focus on being comfortable in your body and feeling alive and energetic when you wake up. Instead of focusing on sleeping with loads of women, focus on deeply connecting with many women. Be intentional about where you set your focus. If you aren’t, you are setting yourself up for failure. 2. Use Life’s Challenges as Stepping Stones Challenges are a chance for you to learn and grow. Instead of seeing them as this negative and terrible thing, choose to view challenges as an opportunity for you to mold yourself into the man that you want to be. See them as a way that you can strengthen yourself and equip yourself for the future. If you approach every challenge with this attitude, you will find that challenges become fun. They become something you look forward to, not something that you dread. 3. You are 100% Responsible for Your Life Until you accept this truth, you will never achieve success. If you have the technology to read this article and listen to this podcast right now and you are not where you want to be in life, it is your fault. End of story. If you are out of shape, in a miserable relationship (or no relationship), broke, or unhappy, it is your fault and no one else’s. You have the power in every moment to take responsibility for yourself and make the changes necessary to become the person you want. 4. Leave Your Comfort Zone Far Behind Life is not lived in your comfort zone. It is lived whenever you are out to sea with no shore in sight, no boat, and no clue what is going on. Life is lived whenever you do things that scare you half to death and make you question yourself. Whenever you are willing to take the leap, jump off the edge, and build an airplane on the way down. The more you get out of your comfort zone, the more you will uncover your own strength and the quicker you will achieve your goals. 5. You Must Have a Positive Mental Attitude  Look, life can suck. It’s that simple, there will be days when nothing goes right, when the world seems like it is conspiring against you to make your life a living hell. It is during times like these that your attitude is everything. You have to maintain a positive focus and be willing to see the good in every situation. If you can do this, any adversity will become something positive, and there is no limit to what you can achieve.
Overcome Retroactive Jealousy and Experience Truly Fulfilling Relationships With Zachary Stockill
Zachary Stockill is a writer, developer, podcaster, and lifelong student. His work has been featured on The Huffington Post, The Art of Charm, and ManTalks among many others. Favorite Success Quote The so-called meaning of life opened up before me, it turned out to be infinitely simple, give love and seek no reward reciprocal love is your reward and the meaning of life in its entirety.” ~ Andrei Gavrilov Key Points 1. Generosity without Expectation is Sexy  There is a lot of focus in the modern “pick up” and dating advice world on making sure that you are always giving less in your relationships than you are receiving. While this advice may have some foundation if you are looking for nothing other than a one-night stand or a slew of unfulfilling sexual experiences, it holds no water if you are looking for fulfillment in relationships. If you want to have the most fulfilling relationships possible, you need to give love without expectation. That is the key. Give and don’t expect anything in return. Give because you want to, not because you are expecting sex or love to be reciprocated. 2. Tell Your Truth No Matter What  If you are struggling in your relationships, odds are, you are withholding your truth from your woman. You need to open up, tell her the truth, be honest with her without fear of outcome and without any neediness from her. This is the only way that you can overcome issues together and break through jealousy. 3. You Need to be Aware of Women’s Sexuality  Odds are, if you are struggling with jealousy, at least a small part of the issue is that you are not celebrating women’s sexuality. Like men, women enjoy sex. They find it exciting and (hopefully) satisfying. And this is a beautiful thing. Instead of sitting around in your relationships getting caught up on  the men who came before you, celebrate the fact that you are in a relationship with a beautiful sexual being, and learn to be ok with the fact that you probably weren’t her first and may not be her last. 4. Jealousy is About You, not Your Partner Anyone who is struggling with jealousy on a large scale is almost definitely struggling with their own personal development. Jealousy stems from your own limiting beliefs. Your belief that you are not good enough, that you will never find a woman as good as your current girlfriend, or that other men will be able to care for her and satisfy her better than you will. If you are struggling with these thoughts, then man up and take action. Start taking care of yourself first. Master your own personal growth and become a man of high value who has options, and you will be able to sit back and enjoy as the 5. Maintain Your Life Outside of Relationships The key to a healthy relationship is highly counter-intuitive. Focus on your life outside of your relationship. If you give up on your friends, quit pursuing your hobbies, and drop all of the things that made her fall in love with you in the first place, then your relationship is doomed. You need to remember that you have a life outside of your woman. This will help keep you grounded whenever your relationship hits rocky ground (which is will).
How to Lead and Achieve Like an NFL Star With Shawne Merriman
Shawne Merriman, nicknamed “Lights Out”, is a former American football player who was a linebacker in the NFL from 2005 to 2012. He was among the top linebackers in the NFL in his first three seasons with the San Diego Chargers, where he was a three-time Pro Bowl and All-Pro selection. Merriman was drafted 12th overall by the San Diego Chargers in the 2005 NFL Draft. He earned NFL Defensive Rookie of the Year honors in his first season and recorded 39 1⁄2quarterback sacks in his first three seasons Favorite Success Quote “Keep working and everything else will fall into place” Key Points 1. Don’t Do Anything Unless You Want to be Great  We live in a world that is filled with mediocrity. People are willing to simply show up, do the bare minimum, and then head off. This cannot be you. If you want to succeed at life and live with passion, fulfillment, and joy, then you need to only do things if you want to be great. Don’t compete to be good, compete to be the best. 2. There is Always Light at the End of the Tunnel  No matter how difficult your life is right now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. We all struggle through hard times, some of us more so than others. Just remember that this too will end and when you push through it, it will be better on the other side. 3. Get Out of Your Own Way If you want to succeed, then you need to drop your ego and get out of your own way. Be willing to take advice, listen to mentors who are wiser than you, get out of your comfort zone and be willing to take the action necessary to succeed. 4. Hustle Like You’ve Never Achieved Success No matter how successful you are, you need to keep hustling like you have never even tasted success. It doesn’t matter whether you are a multi-millionaire, a titan of your industry, or the leader in your field, the day you stop hustling is the day that you die. 5. Remember the Babysteps Whenever you are stuck in life and feel like you cannot move forward, you need to remember to focus on the babysteps. If you are struggling to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be, then take a step back and focus on the small things. Just lay 4-5 bricks a day in your business, health, wealth, and relationships and one year from now, you will have built yourself an incredible home.
How to Breakthrough Your Plateaus and Achieve Like the Top 1% With Rich Litvin
Rich Litvin is a high-performance coach who helps Olympic athletes, presidential candidates, and special forces members achieve  more in their life, business, and relationships. He is also the Co-author  of the bestselling book “The Prosperous Coach.” Favorite Success Quote “Confidence is a result, n0t a requirement” Key Points 1. You Need to Live a Life of Integrity If you want to be respected in life and succeed at the highest level, then you must be a man of integrity. This does not simply mean that you keep your word when you make a promise. It means that your thoughts, words, and actions are all in congruence. You don’t lie and blow smoke to appease others, you don’t hold your tongue to avoid pissing people off, and you don’t live a life that is incongruent with what you want to make others happy. You live a life of congruence where everything is in line. This is the pathway to true power. 2. If You Want to Live Life Fully Kill the Nice Guy Most men play life small. Why? Because they are nice. Or at least, that’s how they appear on the surface. They are agreeable, amiable, and work very hard to make others happy, but in reality, they are living a lie. They say yes when they want to say no, they suppress emotions, and they do all of it out of selfishness, hoping that their perceived niceness will result in some sort of gain. To live fully, to live a powerful life, and be a grounded man, you have to kill the nice guy. Speak your truth, live in integrity, and do not set out to appease others. Be kind, of course, but do it from a place of abundance, where you are giving to the world because you are already so full, not from a place of scarcity where you are kind because you want something in return. 3. You Need to Burn Your Bridges Want to succeed? Burn your bridges. While everyone has their own path, one of the quickest ways to ensure success is to cut off all chances of failure. If you quit your job, move to a new city, leave a relationship, or sell a home, that’s it. There is no turning back. When you give yourself no choice but to succeed, you will find that you are stronger than you ever thought. 4. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There  Something interesting about high achievers is that the actions that got them to where they are today will not get them to where they want to be. Everything you have done to become successful in the past will hold you back from becoming successful today Life is in a constant state of change, and when you are doing the same actions you were doing years ago, odds are you are playing it small. You need to have powerful men, coaches, and mentors in your life who can call you on your bullshit and help you step things up. You will never become a billionaire doing what you did to become a millionaire. 5. You Need to Improve Only 4% Most people think they need to improve 100% to achieve their dream lives. The truth is, they only need to improve about 4% in the right area of life. If you can find that critical 4% in your dating, health, and business, your life can change completely. The key is, once again, finding people who can help you to pinpoint that critical 4% and help you on the path to its achievement.
Why Positive Thinking will Not Change Your Life and What to Do Instead With David Essel
Master Business, Relationship, and Success Coach, TV/Radio Host, Author of 9 Books, Inspirational Speaker David began his career in the health and fitness industry and quickly was named “Mr. Motivation” by Lifetime Television and “The Master of Motivation” by American Fitness magazine. Favorite Success Quote “Every action into the uncomfortable ensures our success in life” Key Points 1. You Have to become Uncomfortable  Life is not lived within your comfort zone. If you want to achieve success, you cannot sit on your couch  and visualize it, you have to get up off your butt and go after it. Want to get shredded? Get yourself to the gym, lift weights, and track your diet. Want to make more money? Work 80 hours a week intentionally on your business for 90 days and see what your results are. The only way to succeed is to do the things that are uncomfrotable and painful. 2. We Cannot Live for Instant Gratification If you are living for instant gratification, you will never acheive fulfillment. You must learn to delay gratification, giving up what you want now for what you ultimately want. It might not be fun to wake up early and workout or miss partying with friends to grind it out on your business, but you will thank yourself in the years to come. 3.  The Path to Success Rarely Feels Good  Success can suck. It’s just that simple. Getting up early isn’t fun. Working 12 hour days isn’t fun. Cutting off unhealthy friendships isn’t fun. But it is worth it. Success requires you to be in pain, it is that simple. The sooner you accept that, the easier the pain will be. 4. What You Think About You Do Not Bring About  Thinking about something day after day does nothing to move you closer to its attainment. If you want something, then go and get it. Don’t wish for it or visualize it, GO AND GET IT! Work for it. Sweat, cry, and bleed for it. Then and only then can you truly acheive the things that you want. 5. Success in 80% Action 20% Mentality  For all of this talk bashing the law of attraction and visualization, the principles behind the psycholgy of success do have some merit. If you want to boost the speed with which you achieve success, then using visualization techniques, affirmations, and other pop psychology tactics work when used in conjunction with massive action. Your goal should be to devote 80% of your time to taking action and 20% of your time to mastering your psychology.
How to Find Purpose, Love Fully, and Discover the Real You With Kute Blackson
Kute Blackson is an influential thought leader, a transformational coach, and author of You Are the One. He has spent the past several years of his life dedicated to helping men and women live lives of true purpose. Discovering who they really are and how they can share their gifts with the world. He has appeared on the Larry King show and has been endorsed by influencers Jack Canfield, Rhonda Britten, Lisa Nichols, and John Gray among many others. Favorite Success Quote “The real does not die, and the unreal never lived” ~Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj. Key Points 1. Be in Constant Surrender  Life is unpredictable. The more you end up trying to control it, the more it ends up controlling you. One of the keys to living a truly happy and fulfilled life is to learn to surrender to the flow of life. Allow life to happen. Understand that things happen for a reason. Do not try and force life, rather surrender to life and you will be amazed at what it brings to you. 2. You Need to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone Life is meant to be lived. If you are staying in your comfort zone, you are not living. You need to constantly push yourself to do new and exciting things. Things that scare you, things that make you unsure of yourself, and things that you are unsure you can accomplish. Because the funny thing is, you will be just fine. You will survive, and likely thrive, and the more often you push yourself to do things outside of the normal for you, the more you will grow and the more confidence you will have. 3. You Have to Question and Feel yourself  There is an old saying that “The unexamined life is not worth living.” You need to question yourself, question your life, question the decisions that you have made and your assumptions about who you are and what your identity is. The more you question your life, the more you will realize the beauty and power of your life. Once you have begun upon this realization, you need to feel yourself. You need to feel who you truly are. Not who society says you are, not who your parents say you are, and not even who you say you are. You need to feel into who you truly are. Once you can do this, you will be amazed at how your life will change. 4. You Are Not Your Thoughts  You are not your mind. You are not your thoughts. You are much deeper than that. You are an infinite being that is part of an infinite universe, and you have to learn to accept that fact and see your life as it really is. Your thoughts are merely a vessel for a tiny part of you that is on this great journey called life. Learn to disassociate from your thoughts and witness them instead of being a slave to them. 5. Happiness is About Truth  There is no happiness when you are living in a lie. If you want to live a life of total fulfillment and genuine joy and happiness, you have to start telling the truth. Tell the truth to the people in your life, yes, but more importantly, tell the truth to yourself. Stop lying to yourself and get real. The sooner you can do this, the better your life will be.
Transform Your Body to Live a Legendary Life With Ted Ryce
Personal trainer, peak performance coach, and podcaster Ted Ryce has overcome a tremendous amount in his quest to live a legendary life. Ryce has worked with Fortune 500 CEOs, busy professionals, and celebrities, including Richard Branson, Ricky Martin and Robert Downey Jr. He helps his clients develop and stick with high-performance habits that help them manage stress and adversity and lead more successful lives. His philosophy is that being a high-performance person, one who chases and achieves their biggest goals, isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity to survive and thrive in the modern world. Favorite Success Quote “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive and go do that. Because what the world needs is more people to come alive” ~Howard Thurman Key Points 1. You Need to Come Alive  The world is full of people who are dead on the inside. They are living and breathing in the literal sense, but their lives lack the passion. They wake up in the morning with no fire in their bellies. They simply go through the motions, doing things that they dislike because of societal conditioning. What the world needs, what you need, is to come alive. To live a life every day that is of your choosing, doing things that you love and spending every day of your life living with deep passion. Forget what society and your parents taught you. You need to do what will make you come alive, period. 2. You Need to Push Yourself Physically to Succeed at Life  Your health is a critical part of succeeding at life. If you are not pushing yourself physically in the gym and challenging your body on a daily basis, then you are doing a disservice to your career, your family, and your personal growth. Whenever you push yourself in the gym, you can push yourself harder in life. You wake up with more energy and can live life on a level 10. 3. Consistency is Key You will never have the body of your dreams, the woman of your dreams, or the millions in the bank account if you are not consistent. You need to be consistent. Set a plan and stick to it. Don’t make excuses, don’t allow life to get in the way. As Nike says, “Just do it!” 4. You Need More Experiences  If you are feeling lost in life, you need to experience more things. Pack up your bags and travel around the world. Move to a new city. Try out a new career. Do whatever you have to do to give yourself more experiences and grow into the man that you want to become. 5. Life is a Marathon  Life is not a a sprint, it is a marathon. You cannot expect to achieve all of your goals and dreams within a year. It takes decades of dedication and consistency. And even then you will never truly arrive at any sort of destination. Life is a never ending journey. You will never arrive, and that is ok. 6. Training Routine to Build Strength  If you are looking to build strength and become (literally) the strongest version of yourself. Follow the below routine. Workout 4 Days a Week  Monday: Upper Body Tuesday: Lower Body Wednesday: Rest Thursday: Upper Body Friday: Lower Body Weekend: Rest Exercise Selection For exercise selection, stick to big lifts. Deadlifts, squats, bench press, and overhead presses should comprise the majority of your workout. Pick 2 based on the training day, for example, if you are doing upper body, complete Bench Press, and Shoulder Presses. Then pick 2-3 supplementary exercises of your choice that are in the same muscle groups to compliment your workout. Sets and Reps Option 1 Month 1: 4 sets of 12-15 Month 2: 4 sets of 6-8 (higher weight) Month 3: 4 sets of 4-5 (higher weight) Option 2: Week 1: 4 sets of 6 Week 2: 4 sets of 8 Week 3: 5 sets of 8 Week 4: Deload (Same sets and reps as week 1 with 30-40% less weight) An Added Note The most important part of any training program is called linear periodization. This is the concept of basically incrementally increasing the weight that you are pressing or pulling to continue forcing your body to grow and adapt. Always seek to add one more rep, just a little bit more weight, or another set to your workouts so that you are continually improving and pushing your body. 7. Bonus Routine for Fat Burning  An easy trick to help you burn some extra fat is to complete the following workouts either on your off days or as a finisher to your workouts. Week 1: 5 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise) Week 2: 10 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise) Week 3: 15  Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise) Week 4: 8 Minutes of Bodyweight squats in aerobic heart rate range (or some other bodyweight exercise) 8. Sleep Better Here are a few tips to help you improve the quality of your sleep. -Download the app F.lux to dim the lights on your computer so that don’t disrupt your natural sleep cycle. -Invest in a sleep master mask (or just cover your face with a shirt) -Invest in a nicer mattress – Set your thermostat to 64 degrees F -Get ear plugs for noisy environments -Get to bed at the same time every night, preferably before 11 p.m.
How to Be Comfortable with the Uncomfortable To Move Forward In Life With Ross Jeffries
Ross Jeffries™ is the founder, creator and Master Teacher of the worldwide seduction community. Featured as the mentor to Neil Strauss in the best-selling book, “The Game”, RJ has taught, coached, and mentored thousands of men around the world, since 1991, guiding them to the success with women they truly desire and deserve. Favorite Success Quote “Be interested in your outcome but invested in your skills. In a breakfast of bacon and eggs, the chicken is interested, the pig is invested.” Key Points 1. If You Want Unfamiliar Results You Need Unfamiliar Action Everyone knows the old quote from Albert Einstein that “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results.” And yet so many of us continue with the same old actions while expecting new outcomes. If you want unfamiliar results, you have to take unfamiliar actions. You have to do things that you have never done to get results that you have never gotten. And that is scary. But it’s the only way to achieve growth.  So plug your nose and get ready for the plunge, but realize that you will come out on the other side better and stronger than ever before. 2. You Need to Upgrade Your Operating System If you are struggling with dating, business, or health, the problem is not in the technique, it’s in your operating system. To achieve uncommon results in life, you need to upgrade yourself and improve the system that you are playing on. You need to invest in yourself and change the limiting beliefs that are holding you back in life. 3. We are All Humans  Often times, men put women on these pedestals and place them on a platform above them. But the simple truth is, we are all human. We all came into this world naked and alone, and we will all leave this world in the same way. When you approach life wearing these lenses, you see things as they really are. No one is superior, no one is inferior, we are all the same and we are all headed for the same final destination. 4. Find Something You Are Passionate About  If you fell lost or feel like your life is boring and uninspiring, then you need to find something that you are passionate about. Find something you love to do and simply do more of it. It can be music, it can be boxing, it can be talking to girls, building a business, or anything else you want. It’s not important what you are pursuing, just that you are passionate about the pursuit. 5. You Don’t Have Knowledge Until You Act  Without action, knowledge is simply information. You do not have knowledge until you have applied the information that you have learned to achieve some sort of result. In the world of business and dating, men run around with a lot of information, but very little knowledge. They know all of the tactics and techniques to improve their dating lives and make millions of dollars, and yet they are still broke and single. If you want to improve your life in a real and drastic way, then you need to start acting on information. It is the only path to improvement.
Lessons Learned from Disrupting the Finance Industry With Elliot Weissbluth
Elliot S. Weissbluth is Founder and Chief Executive Officer of HighTower. His commitment to disrupting the industry in favor of transparency and integrity has driven HighTower’s growth since he founded the company in 2007 in the midst of the financial crisis. The business model he pioneered combines the fiduciary standard for financial advisors with an open-source platform where providers of the industry’s top products and solutions compete for HighTower clients’ business. Elliot Weissbluth and HighTower continue to challenge the status quo by bringing transformative ideas and transparent solutions to financial services. Favorite Success Quote “There is no shortcut to the top” ~Ed Viesturs Key Points 1. Ignorance Can be Your Biggest Advantage Whenever you are getting started in business ignorance and naivety can actually be one of your greatest advantages. For some people, they do not realize just how difficult business can be and would never get started if they did. For others, being ignorant about the market and the “right way” to do things allows them to come up with creative solutions to problems that experienced veterans would never have thought of. Do not see your ignorance as a curse, see it as a blessing. It may very well be the only reason that you succeed. 2. The Key to Managing Stress is Finding the Right Outlets Life is stressful, business is stressful, and entrepreneurship is really stressful. If you do not learn how to effectively manage your stressors, you will end up burned out and overwhelmed,  utterly unable to continue on the path to success. You have to learn to effectively mitigate and manage stress through positive outlets or risk failure due to overwhelm. Whether you enjoy painting, extreme sports, music, time with friends, or just sitting down with a good book, figure out the things that give you energy and recharge your batteries and make time for them every day. 3. Financial Health is Just as Important as Physical Health You will often hear leaders in the personal development sphere say the phrase “If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything” and while this is true, if you do not have financial health, every other area of your life will suffer. If you are living in a state of financial disease your health, relationships, and spiritual life will suffer, there is no way around it. One of the predominant reasons for the astronomically high divorce rate in the U.S. is financial stress between spouses. One of the reasons for the health epidemic is the inability for low-income individuals to afford healthy foods and a reasonable quality of life. One of the reasons that so few people live the lives of their dreams is because they are too busy trying to survive to figure out what their passions are. You have to master your physical health, because, without it, everything else in your life will deteriorate. 4. Don’t Mistake Achievement and Fulfillment While financial health is extremely important, do not ever mistake financial achievement (or any other kind of achievement) for fulfillment. Some of the happiest people in the world only earn $25,000 a year, and some of the most miserable people on the planet are multimillionaires. You have to shift your focus from achievement to fulfillment. What makes you come alive, what do you enjoy doing, who do you enjoy being around? You will only have fulfillment in your life when you can answer these questions honestly and base the rest of your life around them. 5. Go Experience Failure Growing up, you were told that failure is bad. That it is evil. That it should be avoided. But the truth is, failure is one of the most valuable tools you have if you wish to become successful. Go out and fail faster than you have ever failed before. The more you fail, the more you learn,  and the more successful you will ultimately become.
How to Lead and Succeed at a Higher Level With Ken Blanchard
Ken Blanchard, PhD, is one of the most influential leadership experts in the world. He has co-authored 60 books, including Raving Fans and Gung Ho! (with Sheldon Bowles). His groundbreaking works have been translated into over 40 languages and their combined sales total more than 21 million copies. In 2005 he was inducted into Amazon’s Hall of Fame as one of the top 25 bestselling authors of all time. The recipient of numerous leadership awards and honors, he is cofounder with his wife, Margie, of The Ken Blanchard Companies®, a leading international training and consulting firm. Favorite Success Quote “Don’t ever use your position, great leaders and great because people love them and trust them, not because they have power” ~ Key Points 1. Leadership is About Trust Not Power If you want to be an effective leader, then operate based off of trust, not off of your power. If you want people to follow you, don’t demand that they follow you, get them to follow you because they trust you. Leadership is based off of trust, and not off of power. You have to build your community of individuals who trust in you and trust your abilities before you will ever be an effective leader. 2. Don’t Let Age Define You Whether you are young or old, you have something to offer the world. Never let your age determine your ambitions. If you are young, then use that youth and energy to invest into growing yourself and your dream, if you are older, then use your wisdom to grow your dreams while paying it forward and helping someone else. There is no time in life whenever you do not have a purpose, never let your age define you. 3. You Need to Keep Yourself Excited No matter where you are in life, you need to keep yourself excited and stimulate, spiritually, physically, and mentally. If you are not constantly pushing the envelope on your life and growing yourself in all areas you will live a more rich and fulfilling life. 4. Service is Essential to Fulfillment  You cannot truly live a full life unless you are serving others. Life is empty when it is lived for you. You have to have some aspect of your life with an element of service. Whether this is starting a non profit, volunteering at your church or with a charity, or just giving 10% of your money to a good cause. You need to remember that life is bigger than you and act like it. 5. If You Want Something to Go Well Get it Structured  If you want a marriage, business, or even your health to go well, it needs to be well structured. You have to put systems into place that help you to operate from strengths, eliminate weaknesses, and get perspective on your blind spots. Only with the right systems in place will anything truly be successful.
Turn Down the Voices of Limitation & Turn Up the Volume of Success With Aaron Anastasi
Aaron Anastasi is the founder and coach of the internationally recognized, Superior Singing Method, an online singing lesson program that grosses seven figures annually. With over 10,000,000 views and 100,000 subscribers, Aaron has the #1 singing/life lesson channel on YouTube. He is also a prominent life coach for clients in industry-leading roles ranging from film directors to marine biologists to TEDx speakers. Favorite Success Quote “The inspiration you are waiting for, in order to start, is on the other side of starting” Key Points 1. You Have to Get Started  The hardest part of any endeavor, whether it is starting your business, losing 50 lbs. of fat, or marrying the girl of your dreams, is getting started. Once you have built the momentum and gotten over the fear of failure and vulnerability, things will start to fall into place, but you have to get started! So plug your nose, and jump into the cold water, years from now, you will look back and be glad that you did. 2. Don’t Hold Your Happiness Hostage to Large Goals  Having huge, massive, earth shattering goals is admirable, but it can also be toxic. You need to have your big goals; a million dollars a year in profit, a New York Times best-selling book,  transformed body, or whatever it is, but you cannot allow those big goals to hold your happiness hostage. Set out towards your dreams with smaller, more managable goals that will allow you to taste the joy of achievement without waiting 10-20 years, and reward yourself for every step you take towards your big goals. Remember, like Hal Elrod says “Love the life you have, while you create the life of your dreams.” 3. Your Beliefs Determine Your Reality  Nothing can sabotage you more quickly and more completely than limiting beliefs. If you wake up every morning, believing that you are not good enough, that you will never achieve your goals, and that you are unworthy of success, then it is impossible to achieve your dreams. You have to consciously and actively rewire your brain and your belief systems to serve you and your goals, because if you do not, your beliefs will rewire your life for the worse. 4. Your Rituals Create Your Results Success is simple, but it is not easy. If you want that great body, workout every day, count your calories, and sleep 8 hours a night. If you want a million dollars in your bank account, start your business, set about each day intentionally building on the most important things, and hire experts to help you overcome your weaknesses. If you want the beautiful wife and the white picket fence, then start getting involved in social activities, talk to more women, and take more risks in your dating life. Success is nothing but the accumulation of small things done consistently over a log period of time. 5. Feedback Helps You Close the Gaps in Life  If you are not where you want to be in your life right now, then you need to sit down with people you trust and have honest and open conversations about where you are excelling and where you are falling short. The feedback that you get from others (meaning people who have achieved what you want and who care for you) can give you the knowledge and encouragement you need to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
How to Master the Art of Seduction Through Spirituality With Miki Spies
Miki Spies is a spiritual coach with powerful and easily applicable teachings. She is an amazing coach and transformational speaker with an enthusiastic message of manifestation. Favorite Success Quote “Being entirely honest with oneself is an important exercise.” ~ Sigmund Freud Key Points 1. Great Sex is About Presence Many men think that great sex is all about technique and stamina, but the truth is, while those may be important, great sex is about presence. It is about showing up and giving your all, being fully focused and present in each moment. Great sex is as much a mental and spiritual activity as it is physical. 2. Everything About You is Foreplay Some men believe that foreplay, like sex, is all about what happens in the bedroom. However, foreplay starts the second that you lay eyes on a woman. Everything about you is foreplay, from the way that you present yourself, to the interactions you have, to the presence that you show in your conversation. 3. Don’t Regret a Damn Thing Everything that has ever happened up until this very second made you who you are. Don’t regret any of it. The decisions you have made, both bad and good brought you to where you are today and will help to prepare you for what is to come in the future. Embrace them, don’t regret them. Don’t waste time wishing to change things that cannot, and should not be changed. 4. Never Settle  If you ever feel that you are settling in a relationship, then you are doing yourself and your woman a disservice. You can never be truly happy when you feel that you are settling and it will affect every other area of your life. Your work life, health, platonic relationships, and personal development will all stagnate whenever you have a women in your life who you are not passionate about and who does not push you to grow and become a better man. Do yourself and your woman a favor and end things now. 5. Anticipation is the Key to Success If you want to truly succeed and stand out with women, you have to learn to master the art of anticipation. Women are used to men fawning over them, trying to get into their pants on the first date, and trying to escalate much too quickly. Instead, learn to build the anticipation. Slow things down a little bit, exercise some restraint. Not only will you be able to make better decisions in your relationships, but women will respect and want you even more.
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How to Lead and Succeed at a Higher Level With Ken Blanchard

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